杨绛先生走了，留下怎样的教育观？
<div class="rich_media_meta_list" style="margin-bottom: 18px; line-height: 20px; font-size: 0px; position: relative; z-index: 1; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif;"> <a class="rich_media_meta rich_media_meta_link rich_media_meta_nickname" id="post-user" style="margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 10px; color: rgb(96, 127, 166); display: none; vertical-align: middle; font-size: 16px; max-width: none;">好未来</a></div><div class="rich_media_content " id="js_content" style="overflow: hidden; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); position: relative; min-height: 350px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 28.4444px;"><section class="" label="powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section class="" data-id="86411" data-color="rgb(33, 33, 34)" data-custom="rgb(33, 33, 34)" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 25.6px; widows: auto; border: 0px none;"><section style="margin: 1em auto; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border: none; text-align: center;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 3px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(221, 221, 221) rgb(221, 221, 221) rgb(221, 221, 221) rgb(33, 33, 34);"><p style="margin-left: 2px; padding: 1em; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; text-align: left; border-left-style: solid; border-left-width: 1px; border-color: rgb(33, 33, 34); line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">5月25日凌晨，著名女作家、文学翻译家和外国文学研究家、钱钟书夫人杨绛在北京病逝，享年105岁。</span></p></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: 楷体, 楷体_GB2312, SimKai; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: 楷体, 楷体_GB2312, SimKai; box-sizing: border-box !important;">——我和谁都不争，和谁争我都不屑。我爱大自然，其次就是艺术；我双手烤着生命之火取暖；火萎了，我也准备走了……</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 25.6px; widows: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section class="" data-id="43022" data-color="rgb(172, 29, 16)" data-custom="rgb(172, 29, 16)" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 25.6px; widows: auto; border: 0px none;"><h2 style="margin-top: 8px; font-size: 12px; max-width: 100%; height: 32px; border-bottom-color: rgb(227, 227, 227); border-bottom-width: 1px; border-bottom-style: solid; line-height: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong class="" data-brushtype="text" style="padding-right: 2px; padding-bottom: 3px; padding-left: 2px; max-width: 100%; border-bottom-style: solid; border-bottom-width: 2px; border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: rgb(0, 0, 0); display: block; float: left; font-size: 16px; line-height: 28px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">愿“他们仨”在天堂再享团圆</span></strong></h2></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">1994年，钱钟书住进医院，缠绵病榻，全靠杨绛一人悉心照料。不久，女儿钱瑗也病中住院。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">1997年，被杨绛称为“我平生唯一杰作”的爱女钱瑗去世。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">一年后，钱钟书临终，一眼未合好，杨绛附他耳边说：“你放心，有我!”内心之沉稳和强大，令人肃然起敬。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“钟书逃走了，我也想逃走，但是逃到哪里去呢？我压根儿不能逃，得留在人世间，打扫现场，尽我应尽的责任。”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">2011年7月17日，杨绛迎来了自己的百岁寿辰，先生发表了一百岁感言：“我今年一百岁，已经走到了人生的边缘，我无法确知自己还能走多远，寿命是不由自主的，但我很清楚我快回家了。”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">如今“打扫现场”完毕的杨绛先生最终离我们而去，大师凋零，举国同悲，然而想到她在《我们仨》中写到的“世间好物不坚牢，彩云易散琉璃脆。现在，只剩下了我一人”。我们又不能不心生祝福，愿“他们仨”在天堂再享团圆……</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; widows: auto; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section class="" data-id="24" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 25.6px; widows: auto; border: 0px none;"><section class="" style="margin: 3px auto; padding: 15px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 24px; box-shadow: rgb(170, 170, 170) 0px 0px 3px; border: 2px solid rgb(240, 240, 240);"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">杨绛先生从小进的启明、振华，长大后上的清华、牛津，都是好学校，父母家训就是：如果有钱，应该让孩子受好的教育。那么，在杨绛先生看来，<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">什么样的教育才是好的教育呢？</strong></span></section></section><section class="" data-id="4503" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 25.6px; widows: auto; border: 0px none;"><section style="padding: 40px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(115, 115, 115); background: rgb(248, 248, 248);"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section class="" data-style="background-color:rgb(248, 248, 248); color:rgb(115, 115, 115); font-size:14px; line-height:21px" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">教育是管教，受教育是被动的，孩子在父母身边最开心，爱怎么淘气就怎么淘气，一般总是父母的主张，说“这孩子该上学了”。孩子第一天上学，穿了新衣新鞋，拿了新书包，欣欣喜喜地“上学了!”但是上学回来，多半就不想再去受管教，除非老师哄得好。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我体会，“好的教育”首先是<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">启发人的学习兴趣，学习的自觉性</strong>，培养人的上进心，引导人们好学，和不断完善自己。<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">要让学生在不知不觉中受教育，让他们潜移默化。这方面榜样的作用很重要，言传不如身教。</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我自己就是受父母师长的影响，由淘气转向好学的。爸爸说话入情入理，出口成章，《申报》评论一篇接一篇，浩气冲天，掷地有声。我佩服又好奇，请教秘诀，爸爸说：“哪有什么秘诀？多读书，读好书罢了。”妈妈操劳一家大小衣食住用，得空总要翻翻古典文学，现代小说，读得津津有味。我学他们的样，找父亲藏书来读，果然有趣，从此好读书，读好书入迷。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">爸爸从不训示我们如何做，我是通过他的行动，体会到“富贵不能淫，贫贱不能移，威武不能屈”古训的真正意义的。他在京师高等检察厅厅长任上，因为坚持审理交通部总长许世英受贿案，宁可被官官相护的北洋政府罢官。他当江苏省高等审判厅厅长时，有位军阀到上海，当地士绅联名登报欢迎，爸爸的名字也被他的属下列入欢迎者的名单，爸爸不肯欢迎那位军阀，说“名与器不可假人”，立即在报上登启事声明自己没有欢迎。上海沦陷时期，爸爸路遇当了汉奸的熟人，视而不见，于是有人谣传杨某瞎了眼了。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们对女儿钱瑗，也从不训示。她见我和钟书嗜读，也猴儿学人，照模照样拿本书来读，居然渐渐入道。她学外文，有个很难的单词，翻了三部词典也未查着，跑来问爸爸，钟书不告诉，让她自己继续查，查到第五部辞典果然找着。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我对现代教育知道的不多。从报上读到过美术家韩美林作了一幅画，送给两三岁的小朋友，小孩子高高兴兴地回去了，又很快把画拿来要韩美林签名，问他签名干什么，小孩说：“您签了名，这画才值钱!”可惜呀，这么小的孩子已受到社会不良风气的影响，价值观的教育难道不应引起注意吗？</span></p></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; text-align: right; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section><section class="" data-id="85356" data-color="rgb(198, 198, 199)" data-custom="rgb(198, 198, 199)" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 25.6px; widows: auto; border: 0px none;"><section style="margin: 5px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border: 1px solid rgb(198, 198, 199); text-align: center;"><section style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 10em; color: rgb(70, 70, 72); border-color: rgb(198, 198, 199); background-color: rgb(198, 198, 199);"><section class="" data-brushtype="text" style="margin: 10px; padding: 5px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; border-color: rgb(198, 198, 199); color: inherit;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们的女儿（节选）</strong></section></section><section style="margin-top: -6em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block;"></section><section class="" data-style="font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit;" style="padding: 5px 10px 15px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">文／杨绛</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们这一暑假，算是远游了一趟；返回牛津，我怀上孩子了。成了家的人一般都盼个孩子，我们也不例外。好在我当时是闲人，等孩子出世，带到法国，可以托出去。我们知道许多在巴黎上学的女学生有了孩子都托出去，或送托儿所，或寄养乡间。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">钟书谆谆嘱咐我：“我不要儿子，我要女儿──只要一个，像你的。”我对于“像我”并不满意。我要一个像锺书的女儿。女儿，又像钟书，不知是何模样，很费想像。我们的女儿确实像锺书，不过，这是后话了。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我以为肚里怀个孩子，可不予理睬。但怀了孩子，方知我得把全身最精粹的一切贡献给这个新的生命。在低等动物，新生命的长成就是母体的消灭。我没有消灭，只是打了一个七折，什么都减退了。钟书到年终在日记上形容我：“晚，季总计今年所读书，歉然未足……”，笑我“以才媛而能为贤妻良母，又欲作女博士……”。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">钟书很郑重其事，很早就陪我到产院去定下单人病房并请女院长介绍专家大夫。院长问：“要女的？”(她自己就是专家。普通病房的产妇全由她接生。)</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">钟书说：“要最好的。”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">女院长就为我介绍了斯班斯大夫(Dr Spence)。他家的花园洋房离我们的寓所不远。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">斯班斯大夫说，我将生一个“加冕日娃娃”。因为他预计娃娃的生日，适逢乔治六世加冕大典(五月十二日)。但我们的女儿对英王加冕毫无兴趣，也许她并不愿意到这个世界上来。我十八日进产院，十九日竭尽全力也无法叫她出世。大夫为我用了药，让我安然“死”去。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">等我醒来，发现自己像新生婴儿般包在法兰绒包包里，脚后还有个热水袋。肚皮倒是空了，浑身连皮带骨都是痛，动都不能动。我问身边的护士：“怎么回事儿？”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">护士说：“你做了苦工，很重的苦工。”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">另一护士在门口探头。她很好奇地问我：“你为什么不叫不喊呀？”她眼看我痛得要死，却静静地不吭一声。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我没想到还有这一招，但是我说：“叫了喊了还是痛呀。”她们越发奇怪了。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“中国女人都通达哲理吗？”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“中国女人不让叫喊吗？”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">护士抱了娃娃来给我看，说娃娃出世已浑身青紫，是她拍活的。据说娃娃是牛津出生的第二个中国婴儿。我还未十分清醒，无力说话，又昏昏睡去。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">钟书这天来看了我四次。我是前一天由汽车送进产院的。我们的寓所离产院不算太远，但公交车都不能到达。钟书得横越几道平行的公交车路，所以只好步行。他上午来，知道得了一个女儿，医院还不让他和我见面。第二次来，知道我上了闷药，还没醒。第三次来见到了我；我已从法兰绒包包里解放出来，但是还昏昏地睡，无力说话。第四次是午后茶之后，我已清醒。护士特为他把娃娃从婴儿室里抱出来让爸爸看。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">钟书仔仔细细看了又看，看了又看，然后得意地说：“这是我的女儿，我喜欢的。”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">阿圆长大后，我把爸爸的“欢迎辞”告诉她，她很感激。因为我当时还从未见过初生的婴儿，据我的形容，她又丑又怪。我得知钟书是第四次来，已来来回回走了七趟，怕他累坏了，嘱他坐汽车回去吧。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">阿圆懂事后，每逢生日，钟书总要说，这是母难之日。可是也难为了爸爸，也难为了她本人。她是死而复苏的。她大概很不愿意，哭得特响。护士们因她啼声洪亮，称她Miss Sing High，译意为“高歌小姐”，译音为“星海小姐”。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">单人房间在楼上。如天气晴丽，护士打开落地长窗，把病床拉到阳台上去。我偶曾见到邻室两三个病号。估计全院的单人房不过六七间或七八间。护士服侍周到。我的卧室是阿圆的餐室，每日定时护士把娃娃抱来吃我，吃饱就抱回婴儿室。那里有专人看管，不穿白大褂的不准入内。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">一般住单人房的住一星期或十天左右，住普通病房的只住五到七天，我却住了三个星期又二天。产院收费是一天一几尼(guinea──合1.05英镑，商店买卖用“镑”计算，但导师费、医师费、律师费等都用“几尼”)，产院床位有限，单人房也不多，不欢迎久住。我几次将出院又生事故，产院破例让我做了一个很特殊的病号。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">出院前两天，护士让我乘电梯下楼参观普通病房——一个统房间，三十二个妈妈，三十三个娃娃，一对是双生。护士让我看一个个娃娃剥光了过磅，一个个洗干净了又还给妈妈。娃娃都躺在睡篮里，挂在妈妈床尾。我很羡慕娃娃挂在床尾，因为我只能听见阿圆的哭声，却看不到她。护士教我怎样给娃娃洗澡穿衣。我学会了，只是没她们快。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">钟书这段时期只一个人过日子，每天到产院探望，常苦着脸说：“我做坏事了。”他打翻了墨水瓶，把房东家的桌布染了。我说，“不要紧，我会洗。”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“墨水呀!”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“墨水也能洗。”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">他就放心回去。然后他又做坏事了，把台灯砸了。我问明是怎样的灯，我说：“不要紧，我会修。”他又放心回去。下一次他又满面愁虑，说是把门轴弄坏了，门轴两头的门球脱落了一个，门不能关了。我说，“不要紧，我会修。”他又放心回去。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我说“不要紧”，他真的就放心了。因为他很相信我说的“不要紧”。我们在伦敦“探险”时，他颧骨上生了一个疔。我也很着急。有人介绍了一位英国护士，她教我做热敷。我安慰锺书说：“不要紧，我会给你治。”我认认真真每几小时为他做一次热敷，没几天，我把粘在纱布上的末一丝脓连根拔去，脸上没留下一点疤痕。他感激之余，对我说的“不要紧”深信不疑。我住产院时他做的种种“坏事”，我回寓后，真的全都修好。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">钟书叫了汽车接妻女出院，回到寓所。他炖了鸡汤，还剥了碧绿的嫩蚕豆瓣，煮在汤里，盛在碗里，端给我吃。钱家的人若知道他们的“大阿官”能这般伺候产妇，不知该多么惊奇。</span></p></section></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; text-align: right; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(214, 214, 214); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; text-align: right; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(214, 214, 214); box-sizing: border-box !important;">来源：凤凰文化 上哪学</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; text-align: right; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(214, 214, 214); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 图文源自网络 版权归原作者所有</span></p></div><p></p>杨绛：怎样的教育才算好的教育？
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