研究发现：父母多做这几件事情最能让孩子感到幸福
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<p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></p><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"><img width="auto" data-w="" data-ratio="0.017985611510791366" style="line-height: 25.6px;"></div><p></p><section style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: medium; white-space: normal; line-height: 25px; border: 0px currentcolor; border-image-source: none; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section style="margin-left: 1em; max-width: 100%; border: 0px currentcolor; border-image-source: none; line-height: 1.4em; font-size: 13px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span class="main" style="padding: 0.2em 0.5em; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(167, 76, 31);">导读</span> </span></section><section style="margin-top: -0.7em; padding: 1.4em 1em 1em; max-width: 100%; border-radius: 0.3em; border: 1px solid rgb(192, 200, 209); border-image-source: none; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(239, 239, 239);"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">最近读了朋友送的一本书，The Secrets of Happy Families: Improve Your Mornings, Rethink Family Dinner, Fight Smarter, Go out and Play, and Much More（by Bruce Feiler）。作者在书中提到了一些有意思的研究报告，对我蛮有启发。作为父母，我们都想努力让孩子快乐，但你知道吗，如果我们把这几件平常事做好，更容易让孩子感到幸福～</p></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><blockquote><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-size: 12px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">来源：成长在洛杉矶</span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-size: 12px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">微信号：GrowUpInLA</span></span><span style="line-height: 25.6px;"></span></p></blockquote><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><br><section class="135editor" data-id="33" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><h2 style="margin-top: 8px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; color: rgb(0, 112, 192); line-height: 28px; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 112, 192); border-bottom-width: 2px; border-bottom-style: solid; min-height: 32px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span title="" class="autonum" data-original-title="" placeholder="1" style="margin-right: 8px; padding: 4px 10px; max-width: 100%; border-radius: 80% 100% 90% 20%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 20px; float: left; display: block; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(0, 112, 192);">1</span><strong class="135brush" data-brushtype="text" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">常和孩子一起愉快进餐</strong></h2><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">经常和家人共餐的孩子在学习表现，生活习惯，以及其他任何方面的表现都比那些很少能和家人共餐的孩子。研究还发现，这些孩子掌握更多的词汇量，更注重健康的饮食，有更强的自尊心和更好的社交礼仪。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">Michigan大学的研究发现，孩子与家人共餐的时间量成为预测他们学术表现和行为问题的最大单项指标。他们还发现，与家人共餐对孩子各方面的影响力超过了在校学习，课外运动及宗教活动的影响。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">有人说，两人是否合拍，去一趟旅行就知道。我想说一家人是否和谐幸福，吃一顿饭就大致了解。从准备，吃，到最后收拾，一家人之间如何互动，聊点什么，饭桌上的氛围怎样～可别小看这些，一家人和不和谐，幸不幸福，这种时候恰恰就是最真实的缩影。有意思的是，研究发现常和家人进餐的孩子们在各方面的表现都更好，一件小小的事儿，它的影响力居然远远超过在校学习，课外班，甚至教会的影响，看来这真是值得我们花些心思和智慧来把这件事做好。<br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">那么，怎样让家庭餐变得其乐融融呢？社会学家认真研究过了，做好以下几条就基本可以。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: square;"><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">MAKE THE TIME</span></strong>－如果你很忙，无法做到每天和家人一起晚餐，那<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">就尽量多创造机会</span>。晚餐赶不上，早餐也可以，或者临睡前10分钟的家庭点心时间，出门时的户外家庭野餐什么的都很好。什么时候吃，吃什么，在哪里吃，都不是重点，重点是一家人多多在一起，共享轻松的亲子时刻。</p></li><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">FOCUS</strong></span>－<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">不接电话，不看手机，不看电视。</span></p></li><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">STRESS FREE</span></strong>－<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">只谈轻松愉快的事，</span>让就餐变得没压力。可以问些愉快的问题，如“今天有什么事让你觉得很开心呀？你今天学到了什么？今天什么事让你笑了？” <br>
我们家小朋友很喜欢在吃饭时玩猜谜游戏，大家轮流编谜语，边吃边猜，气氛一下子就来了！总之，让吃饭时间轻松快乐。</p></li><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">ENCOURAGE</span></strong>－鼓励孩子尝试不同的食物，但<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">不要说教或强迫他们吃</span>。</p></li><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">EMPOWER KIDS</span></strong>－<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">让孩子帮忙</span>做些他们力所能及的事，比如放餐具，关电视机，倒水，清理桌子等等。别小看这条，有大量研究表明让孩子分担家务，既能提高他们的动手能力，培养责任心和领导力，还能积极增进亲子关系。这一点我们在后面还会提。</p></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><section class="135editor" data-id="33" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><h2 style="margin-top: 8px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; color: rgb(0, 112, 192); line-height: 28px; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 112, 192); border-bottom-width: 2px; border-bottom-style: solid; min-height: 32px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span title="" class="autonum" data-original-title="" placeholder="1" style="margin-right: 8px; padding: 4px 10px; max-width: 100%; border-radius: 80% 100% 90% 20%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 20px; float: left; display: block; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(0, 112, 192);">2</span><strong class="135brush" data-brushtype="text" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">常和孩子聊你们家的故事</strong></h2><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><blockquote style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">了解家族史越多的孩子，更有弹性，更自尊，更能掌控好自己的生活，更成功。</p></blockquote><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">这个研究挺有意思，和小朋友聊祖辈上的事儿竟然有这么大的用处！出于好奇，我仔细查了其中的一个研究。2001年夏天，Dr. Duke和他的同事们，问了来自48个家庭的孩子们一些这样的问题：“你知道你爷爷在哪里长大的吗？你知道你的爸爸妈妈是在哪里认识的？你知道你们家发生过什么伤心的事吗？你知道你出生的故事吗？”然后，Dr. Duke又让这些孩子们做了一系列的心理测试。实验的结果让Dr. Duke和他的同事们非常惊讶，数据表明，那些知道家事儿更多的孩子们，更能把握好自己的生活，更自尊，更成功。就在这项研究即将收尾的时候，9-11事件发生了，Dr. Duke决定在这样一个全民族创伤的时刻再重新调查和评估一下那些孩子们，他们再次发现，那些知道家事儿更多的孩子们表现得更有弹性，更容易缓解压力。现在，这些询问家族史的问题已经成为测试儿童心理健康和幸福的最简单和最好的预测题。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><section class="135editor" data-id="33" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><h2 style="margin-top: 8px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; color: rgb(0, 112, 192); line-height: 28px; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 112, 192); border-bottom-width: 2px; border-bottom-style: solid; min-height: 32px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span title="" class="autonum" data-original-title="" placeholder="1" style="margin-right: 8px; padding: 4px 10px; max-width: 100%; border-radius: 80% 100% 90% 20%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 20px; float: left; display: block; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(0, 112, 192);">3</span><strong class="135brush" data-brushtype="text" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">父母要学会减轻压力</strong></h2><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><blockquote style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">父母的压力会削弱孩子的神经系统和免疫系统，增加肥胖，精神疾病，糖尿病，过敏，甚至蛀牙的风险。</p></blockquote><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img data-type="jpeg" data-ratio="1" data-w="" data-s="300,640" width="auto"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">这一条不容易，为人父母，不管全职在家还是上班族，都有压力，要减轻压力谈何容易。不过你知道吗？这一条是孩子们提出来的。Ellen Galinsky, the head of the <br>
Families and Work Institute, 以及"Mind in the <br>
Making"的作者，对一千个家庭进行了采访，当她问小朋友们：“如果你可以帮你父母实现一个愿望，那将是什么？”大多数家长的预测是：“希望爸妈能有更多时间陪他们玩”。但他们错了，孩子们的第一期望竟然是：“希望爸爸妈妈不要那么累，不要有那么大的压力。”更多的研究还发现，父母的压力还会对孩子的身体健康造成损害。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">那么，在日常家庭生活中有哪些实用而有效的减少压力的方式呢？</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: square;"><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">做好每日计划，多使用清单(Checklists)。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">一项来自医院重症病房的研究发现，医生和护士使用清单来协助护理病人后竟然大大地降低了病人的感染率和死亡率。在处理琐碎家庭事务时，如出门旅行，开Party，买菜，做功课，Morning <br>
routine等等，让清单来帮助管理我们的生活真的可以大大降低压力。无论你是喜欢手写，手机App，或是在网上找现成的打印下来用，都可以。重点是多让清单来帮你管理繁琐的事儿。</span></p></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img data-type="jpeg" data-ratio="0.7230215827338129" data-w="" data-s="300,640" width="auto"></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: square;"><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">每天离开办公室前计划好解决问题的具体计划，这样你不会在家的时候为工作担心。减少工作压力的最好办法是搞清楚你对工作的期望是什么。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">停止加班加点，你早晚会了解，这不值得。</span></p></li><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">研究发现，<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">艺术</span>可以有效地帮助男性降低压力。<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">好的音乐，尤其古典音乐</span>最能帮助男性降低焦虑。对于女性，研究发现<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">咖啡</span>能迅速帮助降低压力。</span></p></li><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果你要担心的事情很多，把这些事情写下来，白天</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">留出一个特定的时间来专门处理你担心的事。</span></p></li><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">做太多的决定会让你压力遽升，学会</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">让更多的事情顺其自然发展。</span></p></li><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">常常提醒自己，自己正面对的烦恼从长远来看只是小事，不管发生什么，最终你都会没事</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">（No Matter what happens, you will probably be fine）。</span></p></li><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">多花些时间和好朋友在一起会让你幸福感增加。<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">我每周和好朋友吃顿午餐，周六早上和闺蜜一起去爬山，平时有时间就和老朋友通通电话发发微信随便聊聊，这些事都让我觉得特别放松，压力也就随之减少了。</span></span></p></li><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">运动，园艺，户外探索，冥想，美食，看电影～</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">总之留点时间做你喜欢的事情，哪怕只是半小时。</span></p></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">再分享一下我喜欢的一句话：“Motherhood <br>
is not a battle against other mothers. Motherhood is YOUR journey with YOUR <br>
children”。<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">别自寻烦恼，没有完美，尽力就好。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><section class="135editor" data-id="33" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><h2 style="margin-top: 8px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; color: rgb(0, 112, 192); line-height: 28px; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 112, 192); border-bottom-width: 2px; border-bottom-style: solid; min-height: 32px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span title="" class="autonum" data-original-title="" placeholder="1" style="margin-right: 8px; padding: 4px 10px; max-width: 100%; border-radius: 80% 100% 90% 20%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 20px; float: left; display: block; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(0, 112, 192);">4</span><strong class="135brush" data-brushtype="text" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">多带孩子参与社交活动</strong></h2><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><blockquote style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">很多调查研究证明有宗教信仰的家庭更幸福。更进一步的研究发现有宗教信仰的家庭更幸福是因为参加宗教团体的活动而结识的朋友，和信仰本身无关。研究还发现，如果你有10个支持你的好朋友，会让你的家庭更幸福。</p></blockquote><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img data-type="jpeg" data-ratio="0.7643884892086331" data-w="" data-s="300,640" width="auto"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">2010年，Chaeyoon Lin和Robert <br>
Putnam在这个课题上完成了一个更为全面的研究。在访问了3000多名成人后得出结论：你对生活的满意程度和你相信何种宗教，以及你和上帝的亲密程度无关。真正重要的是那些你在教会活动中结交的好朋友。10是一个神奇的数字，如果你真的交到10个好朋友，你的幸福感就会提升。换句话说，信教的人更幸福是因为他们有更多志同道合的好朋友。所以，这一条其实和宗教无关，重点是提醒我们要多多鼓励孩子参与大小集体的社交活动，尤其是那些相对连续而稳定的社交圈。圈子大一点的有学校，教会，社区或义工团体等，小一点的有课外班（如中文学校，运动队等），邻居和Playdate伙伴等。做好这一条，对我们来说更是获益匪浅，孩子参加活动的时候，我们就可以和其他家长们聊天交流，扩展社交圈，有时候还能乘此休息一下有没有？</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><section class="135editor" data-id="33" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><h2 style="margin-top: 8px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; color: rgb(0, 112, 192); line-height: 28px; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 112, 192); border-bottom-width: 2px; border-bottom-style: solid; min-height: 32px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span title="" class="autonum" data-original-title="" placeholder="1" style="margin-right: 8px; padding: 4px 10px; max-width: 100%; border-radius: 80% 100% 90% 20%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 20px; float: left; display: block; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(0, 112, 192);">5</span><strong class="135brush" data-brushtype="text" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">多赋予孩子权利</strong></h2><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><blockquote style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子们在那些他们自己做决定或者至少有发言权的事情上表现地更好。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">加州大学的科学家们发现：那些自己计划安排时间，设立每周目标，并自我评估学习生活的孩子，他们的前额叶皮层和其他部位大脑能更好地发挥认知控制能力。这些称为“行政才能”的技能能帮助他们提高他们的自律，专注，和选择利弊的能力。</p></blockquote><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">那么，在日常生活中如何赋予孩子权利呢？</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: square;"><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">自己的事情自己做，自己的问题自己想办法解决。</strong></span>随着小朋友年龄的增长，慢慢让他们学会自己吃饭，穿鞋，整理玩具，做功课，安排旅行计划等等。<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">不要太在乎他们是否做得完美，给他们足够的时间去尝试，最重要的是让对自己的事情负责。</span>当孩子面对难题，挑战和困惑时，别帮或少帮，让他们自己想办法。挫折感会让他们迅速成长，解决难题的过程可以让他们的能力和自信心大大提高。</p></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; text-indent: 0em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: square;"><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">要孩子帮忙。</strong></span>“可以帮妈妈拿一下毛巾吗？可以帮妹妹倒一下牛奶吗？可以帮爸爸一起浇花吗？帮妈妈把点心拿出去分给小朋友吃好吗？我的钥匙找不到了，宝贝你可以帮忙找一下吗？我们今天散步往哪个方向走？今天晚饭你说是吃鸡汤面条还是馄饨？” <span style="line-height: 1.75em; text-indent: 2em;"></span><span style="line-height: 1.75em; text-indent: 2em;">每天多让他们帮点小忙，做点决定，你会惊喜地发现小朋友有多能干，慢</span><span style="line-height: 1.75em; text-indent: 2em;">慢地你还会发现他们越来越喜欢参与家庭事务的讨论，提建议，做决定，还会提醒你们要注意什么！</span></p></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: square;"><li><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(79, 129, 189); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">给孩子责任。</strong></span>照顾宠物，养花，每天准备晚餐餐具，洗衣服...让他们负责一些较为长期的力所能及的事，并让他们全权负责。通过做这些，孩子们开始知道责任是怎么回事，耐心的重要，也了解父母付出的不易。</p></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><section class="135editor" data-id="33" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><h2 style="margin-top: 8px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; color: rgb(0, 112, 192); line-height: 28px; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 112, 192); border-bottom-width: 2px; border-bottom-style: solid; min-height: 32px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span title="" class="autonum" data-original-title="" placeholder="1" style="margin-right: 8px; padding: 4px 10px; max-width: 100%; border-radius: 80% 100% 90% 20%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 20px; float: left; display: block; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(0, 112, 192);">6</span><strong class="135brush" data-brushtype="text" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">多和Grandparents相处</strong></h2><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><blockquote style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">那些常常和Grandparents相处的孩子更善于和他人合作，更有同情心，更会关心他人，有更好的社交能力。</p></blockquote><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; text-align: center; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">很多研究发现，和祖父母的相处能给孩子带来难以置信的好处，比如合作能力，还有同情心。1992年的一个大型研究发现，哪些有祖母协助的妈妈的压力明显降低，孩子更懂得如何自我调整和平衡。研究也发现祖父母教会孩子的核心技能是如何合作，如何体谅关心他人。所以，有机会的话就让孩子们多和爷爷奶奶外公外婆在一起吧～</p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img width="auto" data-ratio="0.017985611510791366" data-w=""></p><br><br>
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