Marketer 发表于 2016-3-17 09:14:11

刘长铭:好的家庭教育,比买学区房进名校更重要

<div class="rich_media_meta_list" style="text-align: center; margin-bottom: 18px; position: relative; z-index: 1;"></div><div class="rich_media_content " id="js_content" style="overflow: hidden; position: relative; min-height: 350px;"><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(148, 138, 84); font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">全国政协委员、北京四中校长刘长铭在一个有着名校标签的学校里呆了</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(148, 138, 84); font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">30</span></strong><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(148, 138, 84); font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">年,但他却更愿意强调家庭教育,希望学生能更幸福轻松。</span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(148, 138, 84); font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(148, 138, 84); font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">前段时间,他的文章“鼓励你的孩子做一个幸福的普通人”被广泛传播。他对家长的焦虑还有着什么看法呢?他如何看待学区房和名校炒作呢</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(148, 138, 84); font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">?</span></strong><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(148, 138, 84); font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一起看看吧!</span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; font-size: 19px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#000000">中国家长过于急躁和焦虑,太害怕落后</font></span></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#3e3e3e">《</font><font color="#008000">请鼓励你的孩子做一个幸福的普通人</font><font color="#3e3e3e">》这篇文章,之所以引起了很多人的重视,究其原因</font></span><span style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">,</span><span style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我认为可能是因为触动了家长们最不愿意承认的一个事实——我们的孩子都是普通人。家长在追求现实的目标时,给孩子带来很多不必要的压力。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">大部分家长无法接受孩子是个普通人,在他们眼中,成功甚至说成功学已经深入到信念之中。但我并不大相信成功学,这个概念只有在中国的书市上很火,套用、复制别人的成功往往出现很多问题。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">其实,幸福就是成功,普通不等于平庸,做一个幸福的普通人不是只顾享乐、追求平庸,而是让孩子在普通人的生活中,感受爱与被爱,体验到创造、创新带来的幸福感。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">作为校长,我和家长交流很多。在我看来,过于急躁和焦虑是现今家长们的普遍心态,太害怕落后。其实你的孩子一点都不落后,这方面不行,那方面可能就比别的孩子强,但家长总看不到这些。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在我看来,这种焦虑和急躁是由于他们把现在的社会看得过于竞争化,社会不像我们想象的那么残酷,每个人都可以开辟新的领域。中国人太喜欢把同一个性质的东西做比较。很多教育者为了高出一个百分点的升学率,失掉了老师的时间和学生个性化发展。在比较的过程中,我们把生活窄化了,失去了很多幸福。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; font-size: 19px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#000000">学区房炒作破坏了教育生态,老师和学校也是受害者</font></span></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#3e3e3e">我前两天看了几集最近热播的《虎妈猫爸》,这个电视剧几乎涵盖所有家庭教育中一直以来的困惑,家长的急躁、焦虑和喜欢比较。</font><font color="#006400">在教育孩子这个问题上,父母把心态放平和最重要,你可以希望孩子多才多艺,但<b>最好以诱发的方式去进行</b>,发现他的兴趣,孩子喜欢,才能学得更好。</font></span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多人在当父母前都会说“孩子健康成长就好”,一旦成为父母,可能更多的期待就来了,希望孩子更成功优秀。但我觉得,你的孩子能成为一个幸福的人,就已经是个优秀的人了。没有很高学历的人也可以很优秀。我有一次去美国,登机口的检票员是个大胖子,帽子上的绳子都快挂不住他的脖子了,整个人看上去很滑稽,但他不在乎这些,反而把孩子们逗得哈哈大笑,骨子里透着幸福感。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有一次在北京的一个超市,我买东西问服务员一些问题。他满脸不高兴,把话含在嘴里说,我问了三遍都没听清他说啥。我说小伙子,你这样工作能开心吗?人的生活态度特别重要。所以,我当校长以后,把“<b>培养积极乐观的人生态度</b>”写进了学生的培养目标中。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">现在的培训机构很喜欢把“不能输在起跑线上”当做宣传语,不知是何时造出来的一句话,真的是误了很多人。家长老拿自己的孩子和别人的孩子比,怕输在起跑线上,起跑线上哪有输赢?终点才论输赢呢。至于社会压力是否存在,要看你怎么理解,你非要处处竞争,能没有压力吗?</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#3e3e3e">学校之间确实有差异,但我觉得北京教育资源均衡整体上不错。家长追逐学区房完全没有必要,过于盲目。我每次给别人上课都会现场做问卷调查,数据证明</font><font color="#006400">人后来的发展和你上不上重点小学、重点初中没有任何相关性</font><font color="#3e3e3e">。学区房热也来自于一些商业机构、学校的炒作,这种炒作破坏了教育的生态,老师、校长也是受害者,一天到晚追逐这些,教育者的生活、职业性都会受影响。</font></span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; font-size: 19px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#000000">读哪个学校不如家长重要</font></span></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#3e3e3e">我认为现在的家长把过多的希望寄托在学校教育上,而忽略了他们在孩子身边</font><b><font color="#4169e1">担负</font></b><span style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62);">的角色</span><font color="#3e3e3e">,他们</font><b><font color="#4169e1">应该在人格和精神上成为孩子的榜样和楷模</font></b><font color="#3e3e3e">。</font></span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有几次,我在</span><span style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">MBA</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#3e3e3e">班上讲课,底下都是成功人士。一个事实是,他们现在的成功与当年上过的小学和中学没有任何的相关性。去年在南开中学,校方特意介绍了一个他们的校友,中科院数学所的院士,他没上过大学。我希望家长知道,</font><font color="#008000"><b>上什么学、读哪所学校不能决定孩子的一生,而决定性的影响来自家长</b></font><font color="#006400">。</font></span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">作为一个父亲,我也让孩子去上过奥数班,后来她到美国上学后告诉我,学校里真正数学好的都是美国人。中国孩子对问题的思考、解决问题的思路和感觉,不如美国孩子。这是一种学习的能力差别,而非学校选择的差别。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我的孩子上学的时候,我和爱人都当老师,顾不上管她。我们也有孩子的升学压力,但没给她施压,没逼着她学什么,我们的教育更偏向于顺其自然。她现在在工作上很棒,在职场上是个令人欣赏的人。我想,这就是我和她妈妈在工作上精益求精对她的影响。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#3e3e3e">而且,我认为</font><font color="#008000"><b>不要把家庭教育过于艺术化、也不要过于技术化</b></font><font color="#3e3e3e">,就拿建立亲子关系来说,很多家长带着孩子出国旅游、探险,都是一些方式。但</font><b><font color="#4169e1">亲子之间的情感是在普通的生活中建立的,一起做饭收拾房间,这样建立的关系很真实,让孩子共同承担家庭的责任。</font></b><font color="#3e3e3e">哪有成天在海滩上你追我跑就能建立的,那都是电视上演的。</font></span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我看过一个日本做的调查,日本女孩子普遍不愿意嫁给有车有房、父母给准备好一切的男孩。家庭就像小鸟搭窝一样,衔点泥和枝叶,一点点靠唾沫黏合,有这个过程,才能体会到建立家庭的辛苦,才会珍惜。亲子关系也是一样,不要以为父母给了孩子一切,他就会感恩。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; font-size: 19px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#000000">不炒作名校是对社会的责任</font></span></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">社会上大部分家长和孩子都有名校情结,这和学校的宣传有一定的关系,一些学校的炒作可能造成社会的教育观出现偏差。我所在的四中从来不炒这个,也是出于我们对社会的责任,不希望因此造成一些浮躁心态。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">记得我当老师时,有的班</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">50</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">个学生有</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">40</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">多个考上清华北大,但没有宣传这个,升学率真的不能表明教育的成功。学生当然希望能进好学校,但四中不会给孩子们定目标。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">状元情结也是完全没有必要,一些名牌高校没必要对状元争来争去。高考状元最后未必是成功的。四中从来不挂文科、理科的状元条幅。考状元的学生主动谢绝媒体采访,我问过他们为什么,孩子说这没什么,就是运气好。我很欣赏孩子的这种大气。这些孩子心里能装下大事。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当然,越来越多的优秀学生放弃高考出国,过去总说高考是过独木桥,现在不是独木桥了,有很多桥、很多路,这是好事,说明经济水平提高了,也是选择多元化的表现。这是教育选择中的一种可喜的变化。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">&nbsp;</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">从事教育这么多年,我接触许多学生和学生家长,近年来我发现一些家长的名校情结和教育公平的追求越来越严重,但也有些家长心态越来越平和,开始考虑孩子的幸福问题。上什么学不是最重要的,重要的是保持进取的精神和幸福的追求。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: gray; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">来源</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: gray; font-family: Calibri; box-sizing: border-box !important;">:</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: gray; font-family: 宋体; box-sizing: border-box !important;">京城教育圈 微信公众号:bjeduvision</span></span></p></div><p></p>
页: [1]
查看完整版本: 刘长铭:好的家庭教育,比买学区房进名校更重要